The Yezidis Wedding

We referred to the Yezidi religious celebrations in the previous video and represented the festivals celebrated by the Yezidi during their religious holidays. We are going to describe you the Yezidi wedding and introduce all the rituals in this video. Currently, when all the Yezidi around the world are in danger to be assimilated, it is too important to maintain national traditions, among which is the maintenance of the elements of the Yezidi wedding. Sometimes misunderstanding and wrong presentation of tradition estranges the youth from national traditions and make them forget about it. Among the rituals of the Yezidi people the wedding celebration is very profound and beautiful. Each foreigner who has been present in traditional Yezidi wedding once at least he will never forget the customs related to the celebration of wedding. Previously the bride was chosen only by bridegroom’s mother, but gradually this problem has been eliminated in the Yezidi families. Currently most of the couples choose their spouse themselves. Though the world goes to globalization, however the Yezidi don’t want to get rid of their wedding traditions, and more often symbolically they keep wedding and prewedding events. The first one of these celebrations is “the seeing of the girl”, when several members of the bridegroom’s family, usually he, his parents and so called “mediator”, who is familiar to bride’s family go to the bride’s house. The guests tell the hosts about the aim of their arrival, if the letters are against, they respond with respect that it is not the time for their girl to marry, and if they agree the guests are welcome. In order to see the girl one of the guests wants a water, then he drinks it slowly. During that time the matchmakers have longer time to examine the girl. If they like the girl they indicate the next day of their arrival. During the next meeting the bridegroom’s parents tell about their aims and if everything is ok and the bride’s parents give agreement, the bridegroom’s parents give the girl any expensive gift. More often it maybe a golden ring. The ceremony of engagement is very luxurious. Many guests can be present, it doesn’t concede the wedding ceremony. On the wedding day there are many guests and festive tables both in the houses of bride and bridegroom. The relatives of the bridegroom give presents to the bride which are elaborately placed in the baskets. Among the gifts and candies there is also a red kerchief (xêlî) in the basket. With the nice national music the 2 sides of the couple give presents to each other. Then all dance their national folk Govand dance. On the wedding day, as the bride leaves father’s home, bride’s brother must bond and open her waist with red ribbon 3 times. The aim of the first one is to evoke kind thoughts, the second one is for kind goals and the third one is for kind work. The Yezidi priest calls the parents of the couple in the bride’s house and he unites the thumbs of the couple in the presence of the guests asking the bride’s father 3 times, as he is certain in his decision to give his daughter to that bridegroom. The the priest asks the bridegroom’s father if he is sure that the choice of his son is right and his son is ready to marry that girl, to be with her both healthy and ill times, because there are blindness, deafness, pain, suffer. Then there is one more ceremony; the pillow of the bride which must be made by her mother, must be brought from her relatives usually by the bridegroom or his representative. After that the relatives of the bride strike with it to the head of the bridegroom she symbolically, saying “Get old in one pillow” կամ եթե ոչ բառացի` “ Live together forever “(ser belgîkî kal pîr bin). The bride and the bridegroom go to the bridegroom’s house under the notes of daf and zurna, where bridegroom’s mother welcomes them sprinkling candies and sweeties. Then the bridegroom must rise to a high place from where he will throw the apple towards the people twice, then the third time he must throw it towards the bride symbolically. This ceremony is related to the Yeva’s eating of the apple in Paradise and expelling from there. Doing so the bridegroom calls the bride to be obedient. This ceremony is commented also in other form. The apple is also a symbol of fertility and the meaning of the ceremony is that the couple starts the way of giving generation. The day before the wedding the young girls and boys decorate the tree of happiness (daza mraza) hanging fruits, candies and money from its branches. This is the symbol of cooperative and safe living. Before entering the house the newlyweds break plates in the entrance which are put by the bridegroom’s mother.

Translated  by   Aida  Grigoryan  ,  Mijerita  Khachatryan  and  Anna  Arzumanyan


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